How do i stop the pain with sex?

Understanding why you have pain with intercourse is important.  It could be problems with hormones although the lack of estrogen typically will cause the symptom of poor lubrication and dryness which then secondarily causes pain.  Using a lubricant helps temporarily and helps you understand if the symptom is caused by the lack of vaginal estrogen.  The muscles are the most common reason to have pain with intercourse-but muscle pain will also cause pain that continues after intercourse that is typically described as cramping aching or dull pain.  Understanding why your muscles are tight and how to get them relaxed becomes the most important step in making intercourse enjoyable again.